Sharper Interpersonal Skills
Nathan and I just spent a week in a workshop called Sharpening Your Interpersonal Skills. The group that sponsored it usually facilitates it for those working in cross-cultural ministry. Only a few of us were North American or European. The others who attended were mainly Ghanaians from the Accra area, about half of whom are working in cross cultural ministry here in Ghana and all over Africa. (Ghana alone has 70 plus languages and cultures.) For us it proved to be a rich experience. Not only were we equipped in skills such as loving listening, confronting well, building trust, helping others manage conflict, maintaining margin and being an encourager, but we gained new insights into Ghanaian culture and relationships. We were amazed at the wisdom and insights that were expressed, and we quickly came to endear the other participants. While we were overflowing with content by the end, we’re going to miss spending time with those wonderful people.
As for how effective the workshop was-Nathan and I can now read each others minds.sometimes. For instance we were making plans for how to fill our stomachs after the workshop and we both thought of the same place to sup. Then tonight when we returned from dinner at a friend’s house and realized that Annaka and Aili didn’t have to be “put to bed” (the 45 min. version) since they’d fallen asleep in the car, we read each others minds to watch a TV show. For those who are not amazed, you just haven’t been around us to realize that our skills often lay in overanalyzing straightforward communication (what is he really saying?-he says he wants pizza but last week it was chicken so is it really pizza, or is he saying that because he thinks I want pizza.). So reading minds is quite a leap for us. Amazingly, this was not a topic at the workshop.
Hope your week is filled with meaningful communication.
Sarah
Nathan & Sarah Esala
nsesala@lbt.org
www.esalas.org